The thought of summer flings are always in the back of every single girl's mind and some guys. Having time of from school and the warmth of the beautiful summer air creates the perfect opportunity for a summer romance to come about. Meeting new people, sometimes with the thrill of knowing it's a short-term arrangement, can be exhilarating. Summer flings can be amazing, but what happens when time is up at the end of summer? Sometimes one person falls for the other person and the other doesn't. Sometimes both partners want to continue the arrangement through the year. The question is how do you have a successful summer fling without anyone getting their feelings hurt? I hope to answer that question for you all in this post. Maybe I can help some of you enjoy your short-term romance rather than dread the end of it. So, here are my tips for maintaining a summer fling:
1) Communication: Just as in any other kind of relationship, communication is key! It is really vital to know that you two are on the same page about where things are headed and what you want to get out of the situation. Sometimes people rush into things and enjoy the moment without thinking. While this can be fun, it's important to take a step back and ask yourself what exactly is going on here. Having a conversation with your partner about what you want from this can clear up any confusion you both have. Talk about what you want, where things are headed, and what you are going to do at the end of summer.
2) Throw Your Laundry List Out: I don't mean your actual list of chores, I'm talking about your list of high standard qualities you have so meticulously put together of your future partner. Summer flings aren't meant to be serious, unless you both choose to carry the romance on past summer. So why be so picky? If you are attracted to the person and enjoy being around them, who cares if they aren't interning at a hedge fund or at a law firm and instead work as a waiter? Who cares what their beliefs are? This is meant to be a non-serious-short-term relationship. Also, sometimes it is better to look for people who don't have the boyfriend qualities you want, that way you may not be prone to falling for them.
3) You, not Jesus, Take The Wheel: Always be in control of your summer romances. You need to make sure you make the most of those eight weeks of non-committed fun. Don't waste your time chasing after someone who is not interested. A challenge is pointless for the little time summer has to offer. Set a timeline and stick to it. Don't waste those few weeks of endless fun.
4) A Good Book Always Has An Ending: If you guys so choose to end things when the leaves change colors and the students head back to school, don't look back. Every good thing sometimes have to come to an end. A summer fling is supposed to be enjoyable, but it's called a summer fling for a reason. Sometimes there is pleasure in things that are meant to only happen once. You enjoy the experience and then it just becomes an amazing memory. Also, if you and your partner don't agree on ending things it can create friction and lead to a bad ending, leaving sour memories for you both. Simply if you both realize you want to end things, keep it amicable. No hard feelings, just great memories and a fun summer. What I am saying above is for people either choosing not to keep the romance going through the year or people who don't agree with their partners on what to do. If both of you decide to keep what you have through out the year, make sure you both are on the same page. I will also write another blog post on how to make a summer romance last through the year.
I hope these tips help make things clearer on how to have more of a successful summer romance. If you guys have any questions or advice to ask me, comment below or use the contact form box on the left side of my blog. For a list of places to meet people to have a summer fling with, check below.
Until next time,
Alexa
Places to meet possible summer flings:
1) Your job
2) Music Festivals
3) Volunteer opportunities/retreats
4) Summer Classes
5) Tinder/Grindr
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